You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in ConversationWomen and men live in different worlds...made of different words. Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don't Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public awareness. With a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing, Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said. Studded with lively and entertaining examples of real conversations, this book gives you the tools to understand what went wrong -- and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations. |
From inside the book
... tion, I am grateful to A. L. Becker, Penelope Eckert, Ralph Fasold, Michael Geis, Karl Goldstein, Robin Lakoff, Neal Norrick, Susan Philips, Naomi Tannen, Barrie Thorne, and David Wise. My debt to Robin Lakoff goes further back. The ...
... tion that person and hope this will create a feeling of closeness that will make her want to do something special for you. This is why it is useful to have a personal introduction to someone you want to meet, to transform you from a ...
... tion , he reframed the acknowledgment and concluded that the author probably valued her husband's involvement in her work and made reference to it with the pride that comes of believing one has evidence of a balanced relationship . If ...
... tion with how their husbands would respond to them and how they should respond to their husbands. The burden from which it delivered the men was perceived as externally imposed: the ob- ligations of the provider role and a feeling of ...
... tion. When Sue appealed to Mary to relinquish her pickle, she wanted to take the one-up position of serving food. She was fighting not for the right to have the pickle, but for the right to serve it. (This reminded me of the women who ...
Contents
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23 | |
Women and Men Talking | 49 |
FOUR Gossip | 96 |
SEVEN Whos Interrupting? Issues | 188 |
EIGHT Damned If You Do | 216 |
Opening | 280 |
AFTERWORD | 299 |
NOTES | 311 |
REFERENCES | 323 |
INDEX | 333 |