Etiquette for Gentlemen, Or, Short Rules and Reflections for Conduct in Society

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Lindsay and Blakiston, 1847 - Etiquette - 224 pages

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Page 167 - When the Duke of Wellington was at Paris, as commander of the allied armies, he was invited to dine with Cambaceres, one of the most distinguished statesmen and gourmets of the time of Napoleon.
Page 137 - ... by accident or thoughtlessness you arrive too soon, you may pretend that you called to inquire the exact hour at which they dine, having mislaid the note, and then retire to walk for an appetite. ARRIVING TOO LATE. If you are too late, the evil is still greater, and indeed almost without a remedy. Your delay spoils the dinner and destroys the appetite and temper of the guests ; and you yourself are so much embarrassed at the inconvenience you have occasioned, that you commit a thousand errors...
Page 105 - Mirabeau said, that to succeed in the world, it is necessary to submit to be taught many things which you understand, by persons who know nothing about them.
Page 73 - CONGRATULATIONS. Upon the appointment of one of your friends to any office or dignity, you call upon him to congratulate, not him, but the country, community or state, on account of the honor and advantage which it derives from the appointment. If one of your friends has delivered a public oration, call upon him when he has returned home, and tender to him your thanks for the great pleasure and satisfaction for which you are indebted to him, and express your high estimation of the luminous, elegant,...
Page 26 - By those who look close to the ground, dirt will be seen, Sir (was the lofty reply) : I hope I see things from a greater distance.
Page 28 - ... he always complies externally with the spirit and usages of the place. His constant effort is never to wound the feelings of another, and he is well aware that prejudice can excite feeling quite as strongly as truth. Of course, this compliance is not to be made at the expense of honor and integrity. A gentleman is distinguished as much by his composure as by any other quality. His exertions are always subdued, and his efforts easy. He is never surprised into an exclamation or startled by anything....
Page 75 - Such intimacies are like the junction of two electrical balls, — only the prelude of a violent separation. VISITING THE SICK. In calling to see a person confined by illness to his room, it is not enough that you send up your name; you must wait till the servant returns. STYLE OF CONVERSATION. The style of your conversation should always be in keeping with the character of your visit. You must not talk about literature in a visit of condolence nor lecture on political economy in a visit of ceremony.
Page 69 - ... STREET. If you are walking down the street in company with another person, and stop to say something to one of your friends, or are joined by a friend who walks with you for a long time, do not commit the too common, but most flagrant error, of presenting such persons to one another. MORNING VISITORS. If you are paying a morning visit, and some one comes in, whose name you know, and no more, and he or she is not recognized by, or acquainted with, the person visited, present such a person, yourself....
Page 83 - ... Fennimore Cooper an invitation to a ball without previously performing in person the proper ducal knock at the door of his lodginghouse — a liberty for which the indignant Novelist was with difficulty prevented from defying his Grace to mortal combat. 'If the stranger (continues the Philadelphia codist) whom you call upon at a hotel should be a woman, you would probably find her sitting with the other lodgers in the parlour. If so, you should order a servant to carry your card and give it to...
Page 25 - The human soul that can support despair, supports not thee. — Mallet. SUSPICION.— Always to think the worst. I have ever found to be the mark of a mean spirit and a base soul.

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