How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

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McGraw Hill Professional, Sep 22, 2003 - Self-Help - 368 pages

"You'll not only break the ice, you'll melt it away with your new skills." -- Larry King

"The lost art of verbal communication may be revitalized by Leil Lowndes." -- Harvey McKay, author of “How to Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive”

What is that magic quality makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, their lover!) In business, they rise swiftly to the top of the corporate ladder. What is their "Midas touch?"

What it boils down to is a more skillful way of dealing with people.

The author has spent her career teaching people how to communicate for success. In her book How to Talk to Anyone (Contemporary Books, October 2003) Lowndes offers 92 easy and effective sure-fire success techniques-- she takes the reader from first meeting all the way up to sophisticated techniques used by the big winners in life. In this information-packed book you’ll find:

  • 9 ways to make a dynamite first impression
  • 14 ways to master small talk, "big talk," and body language
  • 14 ways to walk and talk like a VIP or celebrity
  • 6 ways to sound like an insider in any crowd
  • 7 ways to establish deep subliminal rapport with anyone
  • 9 ways to feed someone's ego (and know when NOT to!)
  • 11 ways to make your phone a powerful communications tool
  • 15 ways to work a party like a politician works a room
  • 7 ways to talk with tigers and not get eaten alive

In her trademark entertaining and straight-shooting style, Leil gives the techniques catchy names so you'll remember them when you really need them, including: "Rubberneck the Room," "Be a Copyclass," "Come Hither Hands," “Bare Their Hot Button,” “The Great Scorecard in the Sky," and "Play the Tombstone Game,” for big success in your social life, romance, and business.

How to Talk to Anyone, which is an update of her popular book, Talking the Winner's Way (see the 5-star reviews of the latter) is based on solid research about techniques that work!

By the way, don't confuse How to Talk to Anyone with one of Leil's previous books, How to Talk to Anybody About Anything. This one is completely different!


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A reasonably good book on the topic. However, the author sometimes comes across as petty and manoeuvering. Some of the tips are quite good and some are next to useless. You will never remember all the tips here, so it could be half the length. In light of the selfish motives demonstrated by the author, I would mention this: You will never, ever be charismatic if you have selfish motives. Think of yourself giving the gifts of caring and concern to the other person, and you will be far more self-confident and lovable. Anyway, I would recommend the book overall. 

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Not a bad book; has a few tips but is more about business etiquette than conversation techniques. I wouldn't say a waste of time but not being a corporate dreamer, not that much for me.
A lot of it
made me think of seeing the world through the eyes of the guy from American Psycho: everyone's constantly scrutinizing and examining every tiny movement and tone of everyone else. I don't know if people are like this but it sounds paranoid to me.
Some good tips but most of them can be summed up by this one: be considerate.

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Leil Lowndes is among today's most sought-after communication consultants and the author of the international bestsellers How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You and How to Be a People Magnet.

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