NOT "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After InfidelityOne of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of marital infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent cheating and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage. |
Contents
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| 15 | |
Crossing into a Double Life | 42 |
THE TRAUMA | 65 |
In the Wake of Discovery | 88 |
Should You Pick Up the Pieces or Throw In the Towel? | 115 |
How to Cope with Obsessing and Flashbacks | 136 |
Repairing the Couple and Building Goodwill | 162 |
The Story of Outside Influences | 279 |
The Story of the Affair Partner | 293 |
THE HEALING JOURNEY | 313 |
Forgiving and Moving Forward | 339 |
Healing Alone | 357 |
MiniGuide to Safe Friendships | 379 |
Chapter Notes | 387 |
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NOT "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity Shirley Glass No preview available - 2004 |
NOT "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity Shirley Glass No preview available - 2007 |
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