You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation

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Harper Collins, Jul 24, 2001 - Psychology - 352 pages
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Women and men live in different worlds...made of different words.

Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don't Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public awareness. With a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing, Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said.

Studded with lively and entertaining examples of real conversations, this book gives you the tools to understand what went wrong -- and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations.


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Full of insight, well balanced with horse shit. - Goodreads
My students are always stunned by Tannen's insights. - Goodreads
The research backing up her theses is astounding. - Goodreads
Great topic but the writing could have been better. - Goodreads
... the insights run very deep. - Goodreads

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Full review at Smart Bitches, Trashy Books It's amazing how much conflict in romance novels stems from the hero and heroine not communicating. Of course, the most obvious example here is the Big ... Read full review

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Women and Men Talking
FOUR Gossip
SEVEN Whos Interrupting? Issues
EIGHT Damned If You Do

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About the author (2001)

Deborah Tannen is Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University in Washington, D.C. Her books include the New York Times bestsellers You Just Don't Understand, You're Wearing THAT?, Talking from 9 to 5, and You Were Always Mom's Favorite!. She has written for and been featured in numerous major newspapers and magazines, including the New York Times, Newsweek, USA Today, the Washington Post, and Time.

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