Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers

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Grand Central Publishing, Feb 18, 2014 - Business & Economics - 384 pages
Before you were told to "Lean In," Dr. Lois Frankel told you how to get that corner office.

The New York Times bestseller, is now completely revised and updated. In this edition, internationally recognized executive coach Lois P. Frankel reveals a distinctive set of behaviors--over 130 in all--that women learn in girlhood that ultimately sabotage them as adults.
She teaches you how to eliminate these unconscious mistakes that could be holding you back and offers invaluable coaching tips that can easily be incorporated into your social and business skills. Stop making "nice girl" errors that can become career pitfalls, such as:

Mistake #13: Avoiding office politics. If you don't play the game, you can't possibly win.
Mistake #21: Multi-tasking. Just because you can do something, doesn't mean you should do it.
Mistake #54: Failure to negotiate. Don't equate negotiation with confrontation.
Mistake #70: Inappropriate use of social media. Once it's out there, it's hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube.
Mistake #82: Asking permission. Children, not adults, ask for approval. Be direct, be confident.
 

Contents

Playing the Game Safely and Within Bounds
2
Assuming the Rules Boundaries and Strategies Are the Same for Everyone
2
Dancing Around Pregnancy
2
Sitting Out the Social Network Game
5
Overlooking the Importance of Mentors and SponsorsAdvocates
6
Working Hard
7
Doing the Work of Others
8
Working Without a Break
9
Using Only Your Nickname or First Name
65
Waiting to Be Noticed
66
Refusing HighProfile Assignments
67
Not Sitting at the Table
68
Being Modest
69
Inappropriate Use of Social Media
70
Ineffective Use of Social Media
71
Staying in Your Safety Zone
72

Being Naive
10
Pinching Company Pennies
11
Waiting to Be Given What You Want
12
Avoiding Office Politics
13
Being the Conscience
14
Protecting Jerks
15
Holding Your Tongue
16
Unwillingness to Capitalize on Relationships
17
Not Understanding the Needs of Your Constituents
17
Chapter 3
17
Difficulty Transitioning from Nice Girl to Winning Woman
17
Failure to Prepare for Social Interactions
20
Multitasking
21
Ragging on Other Women
22
Being Too ThinSkinned
23
Polling Before Making a Decision
24
Needing to Be Liked
24
Not Needing to Be Liked
26
Not Asking Questions for Fear of Sounding Stupid
27
Acting Like a
28
Trying to Be One of the Guys
29
Telling the Whole Truth and Nothing but the Truth So Help You God
30
TMI Too Much Information
31
Being Overly Concerned with Offending Others
32
Denying the Importance of Money
33
Flirting
34
Acquiescing to Bullies
35
Decorating Your Office Like Your Living Room
36
Feeding Others
37
Minimizing Your Emotional Intelligence
38
Being a Doormat
39
Offering a Limp Handshake
40
Being Financially Insecure
41
Helping
42
Chapter 4
42
Thinking Like an Employee
42
Believing in the Myth of WorkLife Balance
44
Making Miracles
45
Taking Full Responsibility
46
Obediently Following Instructions
47
Viewing Men in Authority as Father Figures
48
Limiting Your Possibilities
49
Ignoring the Quid Pro
50
Skipping Meetings
51
Putting Work Ahead of Your Personal Life
52
Letting People Waste Your Time
53
Reluctance to Negotiate
53
Prematurely Abandoning Your Career Goals
55
Ignoring the Importance of Network Relationships
56
Refusing Perks
57
Making Up Negative Stories
58
Striving for Perfection
59
Nixing the Idea of an Entrepreneurial Venture Chapter 5
59
How You Brand and Market Yourself
59
Failing to Define Your Brand
61
An Elevator Speech That Doesnt Go to the
62
Minimizing Your Work or Position
63
Undervaluing Your Consultative Skills
64
Giving Away Your Ideas
73
Working in Stereotypical Roles or Departments
74
Not Soliciting Enough Feedback or Ignoring
75
Being Invisible
76
Overlooking Opportunities to ReBrand Yourself
77
Ignoring Your Legacy
78
Chapter 6
78
Couching Statements as Questions
79
Using Preambles
80
Explaining
81
Asking Permission
82
Apologizing
83
Using Minimizing Words
84
Using Qualifiers
85
Not Answering the Question Youre Asked
86
Talking Too Fast
87
The Inability to Speak the Language of Your Business
88
Using Nonwords
89
Using TouchyFeely Language
90
The Sandwich
91
Speaking Softly
92
Speaking at a HigherThanNatural Pitch
93
Trailing Voice Mails
94
Failing to Pause or Reflect Before Responding
95
Overrelying on One Communication Style
96
Ambivalence
97
Confusing Problem Solving with Complaining
98
Chapter 7
98
Obvious Body Ink and Piercings
99
Smiling Inappropriately
100
Taking Up Too Little Space
101
Using Gestures Inconsistent with Your Message
102
Being Over or Underanimated
103
Tilting Your Head
104
Wearing Inappropriate Makeup
105
The Wrong Hairstyle
106
Inappropriate Attire
107
Sitting on Your Foot
108
Grooming in Public
109
Sitting in Meetings with Your Hands Under the Table
110
Wearing Your Reading Glasses Around Your Neck
111
Accessorizing Too Much
112
Poor Eye Contact
113
Chapter 8
113
Airing Your Feelings in Online Public Forums
114
Putting a Stamp on with a Steamroller
115
Holding a Grudge
116
Internalizing Messages
117
Believing Others Know More Than
118
Taking Notes Getting Coffee and Making Copies
119
Tolerating Inappropriate Behavior
120
Exhibiting Too Much Patience
121
Accepting DeadEnd Assignments
122
Putting the Needs of Others Before Your
123
Denying Your Power
124
Allowing Yourself to Be the Scapegoat
125
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About the author (2014)

Lois P. Frankel, Ph.D., is the President of Corporate Coaching International and sought-after for speaker engagements all over the world. She is a recognized expert in the fields of workplace behavior and female empowerment showing that half of the American workforce is made up of women, and they still earn 76.5 cents to every dollar earned by men.

Bibliographic information

TitleNice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers
A NICE GIRLS Book
AuthorLois P. Frankel
Editionrevised
PublisherGrand Central Publishing, 2014
ISBN145555412X, 9781455554126
Length384 pages
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Business & Economics / Motivational
Business & Economics / Women in Business
Psychology / Social Psychology
Self-Help / Personal Growth / Success
  
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