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that the Father commits to him, and able seed, under continual influences from Christ. to keep all things that believers commit to (John iii. 5; John xiv. 19.)–Cole. him; able to save to the uttermost, able to Now, I have found by experience, that help at the last extremity, able to give out when my judgment went into these things, all things needful for our various circum- and my heart has not felt them, they have stances, and able to do far above all that rather made me giddy; they have brought we can ask or think.--Ralph Erskine me into, some giddy step or another. My He that lives in sin and expects happi- sometimes tell my people, that brain reli
brethren, brain religion will not do, and I ness hereafter, is like him that soweth cockle and thinks to fill his barn with gion breeds a brain fever; but God brings wheat or barley. (Luke vi. 44; Gal vi. down a step, and so we are brought to a 7, 8,)-Bunyan
proper feeling before a heart-searching
God. Don't you be satisfied with the Christ maintains a little grace in his knowledge of truth in the judgment; if any children amidst many strong corruptions one wants to persuade you so, hold such a and lusts: grace is but a little grain, and one as a vagabond, as a man who wants to yet it lives and thrives; it is an abiding deceive you.—Gadsby.
to be seated, stirred up the fire, and began
to prepare him some refreshment. He told OLIVER HEYWOOD one of the Nonconform- her that he was uneasy to see her concernist ministers who were oppressed under the ing herself on his account, and as he could government of the Stuarts, was so hotly not pay for them, did not expect refreshpersecuted as to be obliged to leave his ment or attentions; but he was assured of family and take shelter in concealment. welcome to any accommodation or hospiOne wintry morning he set out on horse- tality which the house could afford. After back with not a farthing in his possession, supper, the master—who had returned and and not a notion as to where he should find had shown some interest in Mr. Heywood's a refuge, or so much as an hour's provision, conversation—asked him what countryman Having crept along ty-ways till he reached he was, “ I was born in Lincolnshire,” said a district where he supposed himself un. the guest, “but I have a wife and family in known, he resolved to allow his horse to the neighbourhood of Halifax.” “ That is go whithersoever he chose; and the animal a town," replied the farmer," which I have having towards evening turned off the been in; and some years ago I had a little road in the direction of a farm-house at acquaintance with several persons there. some distance, he quietly prepared his mind Pray, do you know anything of one Mr. for whatever sort of reception he might Oliver Heywood, who was formerly minismeet. Calling out the master and mistress ter of a chapel not far from Halifax, but is of the farm, he said, “I have reason to now, on some account or other, forbidden make an apology for giving you this trouble. to preach?” “ There is,” said the stranger, My horse, as well as myself, stand in much“ a great deal of noise and talk about that need of refreshment. If you could in any way man; some speak well, some speak anymake it convenient to give the animal a thing that is bad of him; for my own part, little hay and a stand under cover, and to I can say little in his favour." " I believe," allow myself a seat through the night at said the farmer, “he is of that sect which your fireside, I have a hope that God would is everywhere spoken against; but reward you, though I have not means to you know him personally? and what is it pay you for your trouble.” They were that inclines you to form so indifferent an surprised at his address, but requested him opinion of his character?” “I do know to alight. The master led away the horse something of him," replied Mr Heywood, to the stable, and the mistress conducted “yet, if you please, I would rather talk on Mr. Heywood into the house, invited him some other subject.” But observing that
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the farmer and his wife were uneasy at was now a sinner an hundred years old,' what he said, and appeared to feel much in- and, to all appearance, ready to die ac. terest in the inquiry which had been started, cursed.' But, sitting one day in a field, he he, after a pause, added, “I am myself the fell into a busy reflection on his past life; poor outcast about whom you spoke.” All and, recurring to the events of his youth, was then surprise and joy, and thankful- he thought of having heard Mr. Flavel ness that a kind providence had brought preach, and vividly recollected a large porhim beneath their roof. “Mr. Heywood,” tion of his sermon, and the extraordinary said the farmer, “I am glad to see you here, earnestness with which it was delivered. and have long had a sincere regard for the Starting as if stung by an adder, he incharacter which you bear as a minister. I stantly laboured under accusings of conhave a few neighbours who love the gospel, science, and ran from thought to thought if you will give us a word of exhortation, I till he arrived first at conviction of sin, and will run and acquaint them. Your arrival next at an apprehension of the divine here is not known; and I hope we should method of saving the guilty. He soon after not have any interuption.” Hr. Heywood joined a Congregational church in his consented, and, with much fervoar and en- vicinity, and to the day of his death, which largement, preached to a small congregation happened in the one hundred and sixteenth who listened with no common joy. At the year of his age, gave satisfactory evidence close of the service, a collection was volun- of being a truly converted and believing tarily made to assist the worthy, but wan- follower of the Saviour. Mr. Flavel had dering and houseless minister.
long before passed to his heavenly rest, and
could not, while on earth, have supposed A Sinner an Hundred Years Old. that his living voice would have so long
continued to yield its echoes as an instruLUKE SHORT, when about fifteen years of ment of doing good to a wandering sinner. age, heard a sermon from the celebrated Let ministers and private Christians, who Flavel, and soon after went to America, labour for the spiritual well-being of their where he spent the remainder of his life. fellow-men, cast their bread upon the He received no immediate impression from waters,' in full faith that, though they lose Flavel's sermon, and lived in carelessness sight of it themselves, . it shall be found and sin till he was a century in age. He after many days.'
Friendly Monitions to Parents.
The Influence of Kind Words. incident to manhood and womanhood. It
acts like oil on the troubled waters. WERE I to live my life over again, I am I have sometimes thought that the consure I would endeavour, more earnestly ventional usages of society, especially and prayerfully, to dispense all around me among the higher classes, are unfavourable, the influence of kind words. They cost to some extent, to the free utterance of but little. They are easily uttered. If those precious words which exert so kindly we will but accustom ourselves to the ut- an influence. It may not be so, but I have terance of them, they will flow as naturally scarcely been able, at times, to resist the as pure streams of water from their native conviction of its truth When I have hills; and like these streams, they refresh yielded my seat in a crowded omnibus to and gladden the earth all along their course. a lady of genteel appearance, and exposed Who has not a thousand times felt the in- myself to the tender mercies of a thunderfluence of a kind word to be of inestimable storm for her sake, without so much as a value? Who has not seen the sun of hope glance, still less a word of an acknowledgshine through a shower of tears, as he ment, Í have thought it must be true. If heard the kind voice of some one whom he such is the fact, it were certainly better to loved, whispering words of tenderness and break away from the forms of genteel life, affection? A kind word is often of more at least, so far as these words of civility value to the invalid than all the nostrums and kindness are concerned. The caprices of the materia medica. It is sometimes al- of fashion should not be allowed to control most as life from the dead. Then, too, how implicitly all the indices by which the heart like magic it allays the fever of the soul, reveals what is going on within it. This harassed by the cares, anxieties, and trials world is not so fuls of the fountains of 56
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happiness that we can afford to have them cannot be denied. But if they speak louder, dried up by the factitious arrangements of they are not always more grateful, mesociety.
thinks. The value of an article is not inBut the value of this simple specific, variably dependant upon the volume of sufficiently apparent in all relations, is es- voice with which it is uttered. The “still, pecially marked in the family. The whole small voice” that spoke to the seer of Israel, domestic economy may be entirely vitiated was more significant and more precious by an occasional harsh word among its to him than the blast of the north wind. members. On the other hand, where the It may be said, that, as words are only utmost pains are taken to cultivate the the indices of ideas, and those who are dear habit of speaking kindly and affectionately, to us are perfectly assured of our kindness, every wheel in this beautiful and delicate and love, there is no necessity for the repemachinery moves without the least jar or tition of these indices. Grant for a moment, friction.
that there is no absolute necessity in the All this may be sufficiently apparent to case. If there is but a probability that most people of ordinary discernment. But their occasional use will add to the happi I apprehend that with many it may ad- ness of our friends, certainly, as the cost of mitted in the abstract, but denied or neg- them is so trifling, they ought not to be lected in its practical details. Parents suppressed. But I am by no means sure often find a great deal of fault with their they are not, in many cases, at least, abchildren for any considerable infraction of solutely necessary. It does not follow, as the laws of kindness in their intercourse a matter of course, that because we loved with each other, and perhaps punish them a person tenderly and ardently, half a severely for it, although they have omitted dozen years ago, that we love him as tento instiỉ into the minds of their children derly and ardently now. And when the the sentiment of this philosophy of kind husband leads the object of his choice to words. In most lessons, where virtue and the altar, and convinces her, by the various ethics are concerned, positive precepts are modes in which the affections of the heart of more worth than negative injunctions. are expressed, that she is as dear to him If I tell my child not to say a harsh word as his own life, and that she occupies the to his sister, for it is very wrong, and place in his heart next to God, it does not makes her feel unhappy, I give him good certainly follow that he will always love counsel, it is true; but the counsel were thus. There is a strong probability, it is better still, it seems to me, if I said, “My true; but there is no absolute certainty. son, you should learn to speak kindly to There is a mighty power in those words, your sister always; for it makes her happy once pronounced so often, and with so much to hear you speak so.”
fervour, “I love you." But when they I have said that different members of the fail to be used, and the other multiform exfamily should form the habit of speaking pressions of love become fewer and fewer, kind words. I wish to repeat the proposi- until they almost entirely cease, if a change tion, and to add to it, that they should use gradually comes over the spirit of that these words frequently, and even seek oc- wife, is it at all wonderful? Is it not, on casions for using them. Let no one say the other hand, a result perfectly natural that this sentiment, reduced to practice, and philosophical ? I think so. If, by the would induce a want of sincerity, and that allotments of a wise Providence, the man's it would engender hypocrisy. To speak physical system was placed in a state of frequently otherwise than as we feel, would catalepsy, and he remained in this condihave this tendency. But that is not what tion year after year, unable to utter a word I am pleading for. I simply ask, that the or exhibit any signs of consciousness, while habit be formed of exhibiting a spirit of his friends had reason to believe the operatenderness in the selection of words, and tions of his intellect were undisturbed and in the tones of voice with which they are as vigorous as ever, the case would be far uttered. There is among many persons of different. But to know that his heart has mature years, an inexhaustible front of the same avenues of communication with kind feeling and affection—all that could the outward world as in former years, and be desired in the bosom of the family, that through those avenues no rills such as which, nevertheless, almost never finds any once flowed so freely from them may issue outlet. It is there, and that is well; though to gladden another heart—so closely conit were better if it could be expressed in nected with it—that is hard to bear. It is words. It is said, that “actions speak hard to bear, whichever the suffering party louder than words.” Perhaps they do. They may be-whether a husband or wife, a have a voice of thunder sometimes, it brother or sister, a son or daughter, a father
or mother. And it should not be so. What
"Mother, I will go.” if it should seem to us that our friend--the dearest on earth, perhaps-expects none of (From the New Sailor's Magazine.) these words of tenderness, looks for none of them, scarcely considers himself enti- Some years since, a fine young man, the tled to them? Shall we therefore deny only son of his mother, and she was a them? Shall we refuse to scatter a few widow, on becoming of age, and receiving seeds which cost us nothing, and which his patrimony, entered into company, and we know will spring up and yield the indulged in the dissipation of genteel fruits of gladness along the pathway of society. Her watchful eye saw his danger, that friend?
pointed out its tendency to ruin body and There is a vast responsibility resting soul, and used every argument, persuasion, upon every parent, and especially upon and entreaty in vain. One day, she learned every Christian parent, in this matter. The he was to dine with a large and joyful father and mother not only have power, party, and she spent the forenoon in perby their example, to infuse a spirit of kind- suading him to relinquish it, but all in vain. ness and love into the entire family circle “Mother, I will go!!! " Then, John, I will which shall exhibit itself in corresponding retire to my closet, and pray for you, till I words, but they can contribute greatly to see your face again.” He went to the form and foster this spirit in their children, party, but could find no enjoyment; the in the green and tender period of childhood thought of his mother being on her knees, and early youth. They can teach them wrestling with God in prayer for him, how to employ kind words, so that in time formed such a contrast to the scene before they would become their habitual mode of him, that he slipped away--found his expression. Words have an effect on the mother in the act of prayer-knelt down individual who utters them, as well as to by her-fell on her neck—and, from that those to whom they are addressed. If a day, became the delight of his pious person is angry, and speaks angrily, his mother's heart, “a brand plucked from the language will add fuel to the fire. So if a burning.' A religious parent's prayers are child is assiduously taught early to speak never offered in vain. in words only of kindness, those very words will induce a kind and tender spirit. Formation of Character.
There are a great many parents who regard those little acts of politeness which THE education of the human mind comare accounted proper from members of one mences in the cradle; and the impressions family, to those of another, as entirely received there frequently exert their insuperfluous among members of the same fluence through the whole of life. Princifamily. But I do not so regard them-cer- ples which take the deepest root, are those tainly the most of them. I see not, for implanted during the seasons of infancy, instance, why those who assemble at the childhood, and youth. The young pupil breakfast-table from different apartments takes early lessons from every thing around in the same house, should not say as hearty him; his character and habits are forming a "good morning” to each other, as those before he has any consciousness of his reawho, not connected by family ties, meet soning powers. The grand principles by accidentally in the street, or at each others' which he is chiefly actuated, are always dwellings. I see no reason why such civi- formed according to the customs and the lities should not be observed by all the principles prevalent in the country or members of the family, young and old, in intimate connexion where he is placed, their intercourse with each other. On the until contrary, I think I can percieve abundant “What softer nature starts at with affright reason why they should be observed. To The hard inhabitant contends is right.” use them habitually is to draw the cords of love closer around the family circle; and
Good Advice. no agency that will accomplish this is to be despised or lightly esteemed.
The celebrated Grotius, one of the most I have written more at length on this learned men the world ever knew, was topic than many will think it demands. in his last illness attended by a friend, But for years I have been deeply impressed who desired him, in his great wisdom with a sense of its importance, and I can- and learning, to give him a short direction not resist the conviction that it should oc- how to lead his life to the best advantage: cupy a higher place in the Christian family to whom he only said, BE SERIOUS ! than is too frequently assigned to it.