Children Are from Heaven: Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative, Confident, and Compassionate ChildrenA new book about parenting from the prolific author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus John Gray's Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus is a history-making bestseller with more than 7 million copies in print in hardcover. This new book on parenting will round out the relationship mega-brand that John has created. Focusing on children ages 1-9, John explains that this is the period of dependence in a child's life when character and sense of self are shaped. Parents everywhere are sure to breathe a sigh of relief that they now have a John Gray book they can turn to help children reach their fullest potential. |
Contents
Children Are from Heaven | 1 |
What Makes the Five Messages Work | 21 |
New Skills to Create Cooperation | 38 |
4 | 55 |
5 | 83 |
6 | 102 |
7 | 140 |
8 | 159 |
How to React When Children Make a Mistake | 236 |
Doing Your Best Is Good Enough | 242 |
Children of Divorced Parents | 249 |
Its Okay to Express Negative Emotions | 261 |
When Children Resist Empathy | 274 |
The Fears About Desire | 287 |
Children Will Always Want More | 300 |
and Dad Are the Bosses | 304 |
9 | 180 |
Its Okay to Make Mistakes | 217 |
Whose Fault Is it Anyway? | 223 |
Learning from Mistakes | 229 |
Putting the Five Messages into Practice | 330 |
The Cycles of Seven | 343 |
Instead of Dont Use I Want | 352 |
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Children are from Heaven: Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative ... John Gray No preview available - 1999 |
Children Are from Heaven: Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative ... John Gray No preview available - 2000 |
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Page 220 - ... involves making mistakes — but knowing that she will be criticized for her mistakes. Your child may then become fearful of making even the smallest mistakes and eventually come to believe that if she makes a mistake, she is an incompetent person who is not worthy of your love. Says Dr. John Gray: "To expect children not to make mistakes gives them a cruel and inaccurate message about life. It sets a standard that can never be lived up to.
Page 87 - ... have fun again in the achievement activity. As John Gray, Ph.D., the author of Children Are from Heaven, observes, "When children resist a parent, it is often because they are wanting something else and they assume that if you just understood, you would want to support their want, wish, or need. . . . The power of understanding your children's resistance is that it immediately minimizes resistance. When children get the message that you understand what they want and how important it is to them,...
Page 87 - ... in the direction he (and you) want to go. By backing off, you increase the likelihood that your child will regain his motivation, return to his high level of achievement, and actually have fun again in the achievement activity. As John Gray, Ph.D., the author of Children Are from Heaven, observes, "When children resist a parent, it is often because they are wanting something else and they assume that if you just understood, you would want to support their want, wish, or need.
Page 31 - Afterward, they played in another room where there were violent toys and nonviolent toys. When told that the violence on TV was just actors pretending to be violent, the children didn't play with the violent toys but played with more neutral or nurturing toys. When told that the violence on TV was real, almost all the children played with violent toys. Aggression dramatically increased.
Page 14 - Too often children get the message that they are wrong, selfish, or spoiled for wanting more or for getting upset when they don't get what they want. We're too quick to teach the virtues of gratitude — "Be grateful for what you have,
Page 264 - It's Okay to Express Negative Emotions All children experience negative emotions in reaction to life's challenges and restrictions. Negative emotions are a natural and important part of child development.
Page 220 - It's Okay to Make Mistakes Besides being unique and different, every child comes into this world with his or her own bundle of issues and problems.
Page 25 - PARENTING Because of the invention of Western psychology, we are now much more aware of the profound influence childhood has on our success later in life.
Page 25 - With this increased knowledge of the importance of childhood, parents today feel much greater pressure and responsibility to find the best way to parent their children.
Page 24 - It is not enough just to stop punishing our children; we must apply new skills to create cooperation, motivation, and control.