The Rules Do Not Apply

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Little, Brown Book Group, Mar 16, 2017 - Biography & Autobiography - 224 pages

'Every deep feeling a human is capable of will be shaken loose by this short, but profound book' David Sedaris


'I wanted what we all want: everything. We want a mate who feels like family and a lover who is exotic, surprising. We want to be youthful adventurers and middle-aged mothers. We want intimacy and autonomy, safety and stimulation, reassurance and novelty, coziness and thrills. But we can't have it all.'

Ariel Levy picks you up and hurls you through the story of how she lived believing that conventional rules no longer applied - that marriage doesn't have to mean monogamy, that aging doesn't have to mean infertility, that she could be 'the kind of woman who is free to do whatever she chooses'. But all of her assumptions about what she can control are undone after a string of overwhelming losses.

'I thought I had harnessed the power of my own strength and greed and love in a life that could contain it. But it has exploded.'

Levy's own story of resilience becomes an unforgettable portrait of the shifting forces in our culture, of what has changed - and what never can.

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User Review  - Narshkite - LibraryThing

This is an exceptional memoir by an exceptional writer. I was amazed by many of the comments here. People are so hateful. Apparently if you are white, financially comfortable and educated you are not ... Read full review

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User Review  - Sbojo32 - LibraryThing

I'm not sure where I heard about this book, but it was a huge disappointment. The premise seemed interesting enough, and the writing was good, but it didn't flow well. It dragged on (which is saying ... Read full review

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About the author (2017)

Ariel Levy joined The New Yorker as a staff writer in 2008 and received the National Magazine Award for Essays and Criticism in 2014 for her piece 'Thanksgiving in Mongolia'. She is the author of the book Female Chauvinist Pigs and was a contributing editor at New York for twelve years.

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