Too Safe for Their Own Good: How Risk and Responsibility Help Teens Thrive

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Allen & Unwin, 2008 - Family & Relationships - 221 pages
"'Ungar's thought-provoking book is both wise and practical. All of us parents, therapists and educators who work with adolescents will benefit from his ideas on what teenagers require for optimal growth. This is a paradigm-shifting book.' - Mary Pipher, author of Reviving Ophelia. While our kids are safer now than they have ever been, we are constantly fearful for them. We drive them everywhere, organise their time, and cocoon them from every imaginable danger, assuming we're doing the right thing. Even when they are teenagers we continue to manage their lives, and unwittingly prevent their development. In this ground-breaking new book, internationally renowned family therapist and social worker Michael Ungar shows why our constant need to keep our kids safe often puts them in harm's way. By protecting them from failure and disappointment, challenge and responsibility, many of our children are missing out on the benefits that come with manageable amounts of risk. Accessible, inspiring and practical, Too Safe for Their Own Good? helps concerned parents set appropriate limits and provides concrete suggestions for allowing children the chance to experience the rites of passage that will help them become competent, happy, thriving adults. Internationally renowned expert on resilience in at-risk youth and father of two, Michael Unger runs a private practice for children and adults in mental health and correctional settings. He is a professor at the School of Social Work at Dalhousie University and leader of the International Resilience Project."--Provided by publisher.
 

Contents

1 The right amount of risk and responsibility
1
2 Substitutes for problems
22
3 The risktakers advantage
35
4 Overprotected or undersupervised
63
5 Reckless children
75
6 Risk What risk?
101
7 Speaking in ways risktakers can hear
114
8 Connecting
134
9 Slim pickings
158
10 Decisions decisions
176
11 Coming home
189
Acknowledgements
207
Notes
208
Index
212
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Michael Ungar, Ph.D., has worked for over twenty years as a Social Worker and Marriage and Family Therapist with children and families in child welfare, mental health, education and correctional settings. Now a Professor at the School of Social Work, at Dalhousie University, Halifax, Canada, Dr. Ungar is an internationally recognised researcher on the subject of resilience, and leads a team that spans eleven countries on five continents. He is also the author of five previous books for parents, educators and helping professionals. In addition to his research and writing interests, Dr. Ungar maintains a small family therapy practice for troubled youth and their families. He also served on the Nova Scotia Association of Social Workers Registration Board from 2002-2006. He lives in Halifax with his partner and their two teenaged children.

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