Misery and Company: Sympathy in Everyday LifeIn a kind of social tour of sympathy, Candace Clark reveals that the emotional experience we call sympathy has a history, logic, and life of its own. Although sympathy may seem to be a natural, reflexive reaction, people are not born knowing when, for whom, and in what circumstances sympathy is appropriate. Rather, they learn elaborate, highly specific rules—different rules for men than for women—that guide when to feel or display sympathy, when to claim it, and how to accept it. Using extensive interviews, cultural artifacts, and "intensive eavesdropping" in public places, such as hospitals and funeral parlors, as well as analyzing charity appeals, blues lyrics, greeting cards, novels, and media reports, Clark shows that we learn culturally prescribed rules that govern our expression of sympathy. "Clark's . . . research methods [are] inventive and her glimpses of U.S. life revealing. . . . And you have to love a social scientist so respectful of Miss Manners."—Clifford Orwin, Toronto Globe and Mail "Clark offers a thought-provoking and quite interesting etiquette of sympathy according to which we ought to act in order to preserve the sympathy credits we can call on in time of need."—Virginia Quarterly Review |
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... percent , 9.5 percent and 9.0 percent respectively . However , one should note that these cases of crime did not necessarily occur in these districts . Table 1.2 : Percentage Distribution of Serious Cases of Crime by District 2006 ...
... percent , 9.5 percent and 9.0 percent respectively . However , one should note that these cases of crime did not necessarily occur in these districts . Table 1.2 : Percentage Distribution of Serious Cases of Crime by District 2006 ...
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... percent ) were female . Adult daughters comprised 28.9 percent of the group and wives 22.7 percent of all caregivers . Husbands accounted for almost 13 percent of this informal care system . Approximately 70 percent of the population ...
... percent ) were female . Adult daughters comprised 28.9 percent of the group and wives 22.7 percent of all caregivers . Husbands accounted for almost 13 percent of this informal care system . Approximately 70 percent of the population ...
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... percent led by an 8.4 percent rise in aggravated assaults and a 6.5 percent rise in offenses of rape . Auto thefts increased 5.1 percent but other property crimes and criminal homicides increased only nominally . City crimes registered ...
... percent led by an 8.4 percent rise in aggravated assaults and a 6.5 percent rise in offenses of rape . Auto thefts increased 5.1 percent but other property crimes and criminal homicides increased only nominally . City crimes registered ...
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... percent of the total working population and 23 percent of the total workers not covered by a plan . In contrast , workers with monthly earnings of $ 2,000 or more have a pension coverage rate of 84 percent ( figure 2 ) . Industry ...
... percent of the total working population and 23 percent of the total workers not covered by a plan . In contrast , workers with monthly earnings of $ 2,000 or more have a pension coverage rate of 84 percent ( figure 2 ) . Industry ...
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... percent , injury 11.3 percent , conditions of pregnancy 9.1 percent , cancer and mental disorders 7.4 percent . These varied very little from 1982 experience . * Overall use of ... percent Fifty - eight percent of female age group and of 7.
... percent , injury 11.3 percent , conditions of pregnancy 9.1 percent , cancer and mental disorders 7.4 percent . These varied very little from 1982 experience . * Overall use of ... percent Fifty - eight percent of female age group and of 7.
Contents
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Forms and Process | 26 |
Sympathy Entrepreneurs and the Grounds for Sympathy | 80 |
4 The Socioemotional Economy Social Value and Sympathy Margin | 128 |
5 Sympathy Biography and the Rules of Sympathy Etiquette | 158 |
The Sympathetic Response | 194 |
7 Sympathy Microhierarchy and Micropolitics | 226 |
8 Epilogue | 252 |
Research Strategies | 261 |
References | 281 |
Name Index | 299 |
Subject Index | 304 |
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