Misery and Company: Sympathy in Everyday LifeIn a kind of social tour of sympathy, Candace Clark reveals that the emotional experience we call sympathy has a history, logic, and life of its own. Although sympathy may seem to be a natural, reflexive reaction, people are not born knowing when, for whom, and in what circumstances sympathy is appropriate. Rather, they learn elaborate, highly specific rules—different rules for men than for women—that guide when to feel or display sympathy, when to claim it, and how to accept it. Using extensive interviews, cultural artifacts, and "intensive eavesdropping" in public places, such as hospitals and funeral parlors, as well as analyzing charity appeals, blues lyrics, greeting cards, novels, and media reports, Clark shows that we learn culturally prescribed rules that govern our expression of sympathy. "Clark's . . . research methods [are] inventive and her glimpses of U.S. life revealing. . . . And you have to love a social scientist so respectful of Miss Manners."—Clifford Orwin, Toronto Globe and Mail "Clark offers a thought-provoking and quite interesting etiquette of sympathy according to which we ought to act in order to preserve the sympathy credits we can call on in time of need."—Virginia Quarterly Review |
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Sympathy in Everyday Life Candace Clark. The tumor is inoperable because it's ... sympathy leads me to believe that WASPs , Italian Americans , Jewish Americans ... display and perhaps to interior feeling itself . Thus , I mention ...
Sympathy in Everyday Life Candace Clark. The tumor is inoperable because it's ... sympathy leads me to believe that WASPs , Italian Americans , Jewish Americans ... display and perhaps to interior feeling itself . Thus , I mention ...
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Sympathy in Everyday Life Candace Clark. Tony salvage himself from the ... sympathy personally and palpably signals the boundaries between those who deserve ... display of sentiment , the nurse had taken a more active approach , arguing ...
Sympathy in Everyday Life Candace Clark. Tony salvage himself from the ... sympathy personally and palpably signals the boundaries between those who deserve ... display of sentiment , the nurse had taken a more active approach , arguing ...
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... sympathy logic is not just available and taken for granted — it is enforced . Turnbull contended that the Ik would ... sympathetic urges and displays . We can imagine how this one or that one would assess our feelings and actions and use ...
... sympathy logic is not just available and taken for granted — it is enforced . Turnbull contended that the Ik would ... sympathetic urges and displays . We can imagine how this one or that one would assess our feelings and actions and use ...
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Contents
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Forms and Process | 26 |
Sympathy Entrepreneurs and the Grounds for Sympathy | 80 |
4 The Socioemotional Economy Social Value and Sympathy Margin | 128 |
5 Sympathy Biography and the Rules of Sympathy Etiquette | 158 |
The Sympathetic Response | 194 |
7 Sympathy Microhierarchy and Micropolitics | 226 |
8 Epilogue | 252 |
Research Strategies | 261 |
References | 281 |
Name Index | 299 |
Subject Index | 304 |
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