Misery and Company: Sympathy in Everyday LifeIn a kind of social tour of sympathy, Candace Clark reveals that the emotional experience we call sympathy has a history, logic, and life of its own. Although sympathy may seem to be a natural, reflexive reaction, people are not born knowing when, for whom, and in what circumstances sympathy is appropriate. Rather, they learn elaborate, highly specific rules—different rules for men than for women—that guide when to feel or display sympathy, when to claim it, and how to accept it. Using extensive interviews, cultural artifacts, and "intensive eavesdropping" in public places, such as hospitals and funeral parlors, as well as analyzing charity appeals, blues lyrics, greeting cards, novels, and media reports, Clark shows that we learn culturally prescribed rules that govern our expression of sympathy. "Clark's . . . research methods [are] inventive and her glimpses of U.S. life revealing. . . . And you have to love a social scientist so respectful of Miss Manners."—Clifford Orwin, Toronto Globe and Mail "Clark offers a thought-provoking and quite interesting etiquette of sympathy according to which we ought to act in order to preserve the sympathy credits we can call on in time of need."—Virginia Quarterly Review |
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... sympathy , accept it , and decline it with decorum . The feeling rules and logics for sympathizers and sympathizees ... Logic By this time , however , the mindful reader may be demurring that Ameri- cans do not always respond or even try to ...
... sympathy , accept it , and decline it with decorum . The feeling rules and logics for sympathizers and sympathizees ... Logic By this time , however , the mindful reader may be demurring that Ameri- cans do not always respond or even try to ...
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... sympathy ( field notes ) . Besides ties of intimacy , sympathy also creates ... logic of the socioemotional economy give people a conception of " distrib ... sympathy often connects people asymmetrically ( Clark 1990 ) . In the first ...
... sympathy ( field notes ) . Besides ties of intimacy , sympathy also creates ... logic of the socioemotional economy give people a conception of " distrib ... sympathy often connects people asymmetrically ( Clark 1990 ) . In the first ...
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... sympathy logic is not just available and taken for granted — it is enforced . Turnbull contended that the Ik would have viewed someone who gave sympathy or expected to receive it as peculiar or bizarre . In our society , too , the group ...
... sympathy logic is not just available and taken for granted — it is enforced . Turnbull contended that the Ik would have viewed someone who gave sympathy or expected to receive it as peculiar or bizarre . In our society , too , the group ...
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Sympathy in Everyday Life Candace Clark. other , and taking the role of the other toward ourselves , sympathy logic becomes a part of our internal orientation to the social world and to our own relative value in that social world . Thus ...
Sympathy in Everyday Life Candace Clark. other , and taking the role of the other toward ourselves , sympathy logic becomes a part of our internal orientation to the social world and to our own relative value in that social world . Thus ...
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Contents
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Forms and Process | 26 |
Sympathy Entrepreneurs and the Grounds for Sympathy | 80 |
4 The Socioemotional Economy Social Value and Sympathy Margin | 128 |
5 Sympathy Biography and the Rules of Sympathy Etiquette | 158 |
The Sympathetic Response | 194 |
7 Sympathy Microhierarchy and Micropolitics | 226 |
8 Epilogue | 252 |
Research Strategies | 261 |
References | 281 |
Name Index | 299 |
Subject Index | 304 |
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