You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation

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HarperCollins, Jul 24, 2001 - Psychology - 352 pages
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Women and men live in different worlds...made of different words.

Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don't Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public awareness. With a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing, Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said.

Studded with lively and entertaining examples of real conversations, this book gives you the tools to understand what went wrong -- and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations.


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Full of insight, well balanced with horse shit. - Goodreads
My students are always stunned by Tannen's insights. - Goodreads
The research backing up her theses is astounding. - Goodreads
Great topic but the writing could have been better. - Goodreads
really interesting-- used for research in college. - Goodreads
... the insights run very deep. - Goodreads

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User Review  - Hanna - Goodreads

Interesting and fun to read! The book is so true as far as men and women communicating and it gives great insight and makes you think Read full review

Review: You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation

User Review  - Astrid - Goodreads

P. 297 'The biggest mistake is believing there is one right way to listen, to talk, to have a conversation – or a relationship.' Read full review

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Deborah Tannen is Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University in Washington, D.C. Her books include the New York Times bestsellers You Just Don't Understand, You're Wearing THAT?, Talking from 9 to 5, and You Were Always Mom's Favorite!. She has written for and been featured in numerous major newspapers and magazines, including the New York Times, Newsweek, USA Today, the Washington Post, and Time.

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